Grief, Gratitude, Optismism and the Gift of Life

The summer of 2015 has been traumatic at times, sad, happy, and eye opening.  I haven’t taken the time to peruse all that has occurred this summer.  I want to go over these ideas with you in hopes it will jar/help you into personal action for the life you want to live.  Now, as tomorrow is not promised.  This is the hardest lesson from this summer.

I am thrilled to say, this summer, my second knee replacement was a tremendous success.  I love having two knees that do not hurt.  I haven’t take an tylenol in weeks and for that I am grateful.  During my recooperation, I was able to spend time with a dear friend who entered hospice.  I was able to visit her as she was housebound.  I talked to her daily on the phone and she was always messenging me.  She was full of plans and the desire to plan her future for when she would get well.  She thought she would be this last round of cancer.  She did not get well.

I began to search for inspiration and a way out of how I was feeling.  Another new, and now dear friend came to visit.  She brought information about the Rhonda Bryne books that I had never listened to.  It’s called The Secret, which is very agnostic in approach.  I can take some of it and want to puke at other parts, jus joking.  It was very hippieville at times.

But the second book was The Magic and was about doing a grateful list for 28 days.  The last book was Hero which is about 12 people in real life who put the information to work and changed their lives.  I have done the same thing.  I am full of optimism, plans for my future, and grateful for the awareness of my own tendencies, the good and the bad.

In a nutshell, if you are in a mood of depression, or uneasiness, or just want to not have the anxiety going on in your life.  It is a blue moon and that brings anxiety to all of us as our bodies are so much water, we are effected by the tides as we are water.  Make a grateful list.  Pray or meditate on those you dislike.  Take the person you dislike most and find something you have in common.  Only wish them well.  This will work if you apply yourself.  Envision your future as you want to see it.  Think about what you will be doing.  See it in your mind.

I have now incurred another sadness of someone passing.  12 years old.  The child of an acquaintance.  I cannot wrap my mind around that kind of grief.  He had to explain to his 7 year old that she is just at another address for awhile, until they all can meetup again.  It is horrible.  Yet, I am happy this summer in spite of all of this sadness because I have chosen to be happy.  To love, to share my life with others as best I can.  To only think well of everyone and myself.  Thinking well of myself is often harder than thinking well of you.  I do not say this tritely, you don’t just get over the passing of your child.  If this were my child or family member, I doubt I could be happy for a very long time.  I am sharing life with them.

So, grief will come and pass, gratitude is a daily list, and a choice.  Optismism is the way I want to live and, the gift of my life is one I have no control over.  I hope I wake up everyday and live it to the fullest as I am tuned into the fact, it is not guaranteed.  Death waits for no one and will visit us all at some point in time.

What do you need to work on?  I wish for us all, to get a grip on what we are angry about, what we can change and the wisdom to know when to just go ok, and move on.  Post comments if you like.  I always love hearing from you.  If and when it is my time to return to the spirit world, know that I lived well and I loved all of you without reservation.  I am truly happy this year with the way my life is going.  I found a lifestyle that has given me back my health and allows me to really partake of the good things that had be shelved for so many years.  Ok, some with reservation, but I will always have something to work on.  I don’t want to be perfect because I like the changes the universe brings to me.  I don’t have to know everything just now, just be willing to keep learning, living and being grateful.

Have a great day today and I hope we are all here tomorrow.  Hugs!!


Is following LowcarbHighFatModerateProtein sustainable and healthy? Is it hard?

This is often the question I get after being ask, What Do You Eat?  People go into a diet mentality which is always a starting point.  The second thing is the instant flashback to other diet adventures, where we were hungry and not having any of our favorite foods, which I know now, was carb addition.  People do not want to accept the real fact, that you don’t love and like these foods, but that you are addicted.  That is difficult to address, it is like talking to a wall.  I tend to bother less and less.  The future illnesses you will incurr, the future medical bills and prescriptions you will incurr and the general feeling of ill health, failing health and all that encumbers is yours for liking your carb addiction, while in total denial.   I can only deal with me.

For me, I came from chronic pain and when it stopped, it became a no brainer, I do not want to hurt or, weight that much ever again.  So for me, is it hard?  No.  I want the life I now have.  I am busy, happy, can move really well, am loving my energy and have a happier, mental outlook.  Yes, carbs can create mental fog.

For you,  ask yourself, why are you doing this?  Or, why are you pretending to do this?  What is the payoff in dilly dallying around with your health?  This menu has worked on 60,000 people and now, it’s failing you?  I guess it is possible, but I am not sure I believe it.  People have different issues, which is why going to a HEAL Clinic is not a bad idea for diabetics or people on medicines.  I don’t know how this menu can hurt you, but then I am not medical.  I am just a person who it works for and cannot have a life without it.

Are there signs that you might need the menu?  Men and women who have stomach girth need the menu.  Is your life worth more than the weekend beer, or pie or chips?  O yes, less I digress, you like them and can quit eating them anytime.  Apologizies, drug addicts are also waiting to cut back, as they can anytime they want to.  Sugar addiction is kin to heron addiction.  Flour breaks down, aka wheat of many names and kinds, is a sugar in your body.  It causes inflammation.  Alot of autoimmune diseases have been linked to flour and sugar.  But I disgress, your illnesses are different and you are unique with them.  You are unique being you, but it has nothing to do with your illnesses.

So, no, I don’t want to get in your stuff.  You can afford the medical protocol of disease and you are supporting the medical industry.  Now, I have no doubt that some people may need meds to get thru the craving part of switching.  Some people have real health issues that are above my head, so you need Dr. Westman in my opinion.  There are others but he is my go to Doc, on first base in Durham, NC   Dr. Eric Westman.  He also has a HEAL clinic near Southpoint.

If you don’t want to do the menu, then own it.  Stop pretending to do the menu?  But, I have to ask you, what is the payoff in not getting optimal health?  This menu gives you more than weighl oss.  In fact, that is the least dependable factor.  You get more energy, feel better, lose body inflammation which decreases body size and your clothes fit better.  You eat bacon, butter, cheese, steak, alot of great foods.  So it’s fine if you LIKE your chips.

I was addicted to chips, beer, candy, all of the things you like.  Within a week or so of starting this plan, I felt better and the like aka cravings for these foods dissappeared.  I don’t think about them anymore.  I can make equivalent food in lowcarb version when I really want to take something to a party, but mostly, I don’t think about them.

I eat alot of fat, the myth of it causing heart disease has been proven that it does not.   You have to eat fat to lose fat.  Studies of science verify this.  You can find all of your own reasons to change or, not change.  I will like you anyway, but your tirade of why you are so different  and can’t do this, is probably as boring to me, as my telling you one more time the merits of this menu.

Have a great day!!  Spring is here and a time for renewal and change.  See what you would like to do differently this year.  It is a far better time, than the cold New Year’s Resolution.  Hope to hear from you………Happy Spring!  Happy Lowcarbing, or not 🙂